So it's been all over the news/web about the teacher that told the boy he couldn't include a picture of his angel brother in his project. Now I haven't seen her response to the whole thing but I feel so sorry not only for him but for his whole family. Its hard enough struggling as a parent to know the "right" way to handle a situation like that and then to have a teacher, someone who is supposed to support the child, tell him it's wrong to smile at the fact that he had a sibling....
We we're very lucky with Bugs' teacher and the whole school. We informed her teacher in advance there might be a chance Trysten wouldn't be coming home from the hospital. She was very understanding and willing to support Bugs with what was to come. After we lost Trysten her and a few others from school gave us a little care package including a book, stuffed animal and dinner and welcomed her back to class with wide arms. Bugs was also not only allowed but encouraged to bring photos of Trysten to share at circle time. her friends also knew what happened and were supportive and loving. We got handmade cards and such from them with drawn pictures of her and her brother. Even now being almost a year since he passed she receives the same support. She misses her brother but she loves talking about him and imagining what he would be doing if he we're still here. I feel so lucky she attends a school that's like an extended family. They understand life happens and to embrace it instead of covering it up.
The worst part in their case is it wasn't something they expected. They didn't know ahead like we did what the chances were. Their baby was stillborn. How do you expect a kid to go to class, where's he's probably been talking and getting excited about the baby, to act like it never happened? That would be like a child losing a mother/father and expecting them not to talk about that parent anymore... That's just not going to happen nor should it. Keeping the silence time is over. People need to realize whether it makes you uncomfortable or not we will talk about out babies if we so desire. It is our right as their parent/family to do so. We may not have had a lot of time with out baby but they still impacted our lives.
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